David Roy Barnes, age 22, of Oshkosh/Adams-Friendship, died unexpectedly due to complications from cancer treatments on Sunday, October 7, 2007 in Oshkosh, WI.
Funeral Services will be held at 11:00 a.m. on Thursday, October 11th, 2007 at the Immanuel Lutheran Church in Adams, Wisconsin. Rev. John Krebs will officiate. Burial will follow at the South Arkdale Cemetery.
Friends may call at Roseberrys Funeral Home & Crematory on Wednesday, October 10th, from 4 to 8 p.m. and at Immanuel Lutheran Church on Thursday, October 11th, from 10 a.m. until the time of service.
David was born February 20, 1985 to Herb and Deb (Olson) Barnes in Friendship, WI.
David resided in Oshkosh, attending his 5th year at the University of Wisconsin. Influenced by many memorable experiences and great teachers, David continued in his years long, yet unwavering desire to be a high school English teacher. David loved to read and often shared of his desire to bring other young people to love it as much. An early elementary teacher described David as a kid that "likes to have fun, but he knew when it was time to get down to business." An apt observation yet today.
David enjoyed baseball all of his brief life. With hopes of playing for his beloved Atlanta Braves, he began by throwing his ball on the roof of his home for hours. This gave his mom the benefit of knowing exactly where he was by the evident thump echoing throughout the house. The years of Little League showed a focused player emerging, and continued with his position behind the plate of his Adams-Friendship team.
David had many friends in his hometown of Adams-Friendship as well as his new home in Oshkosh. He had worked at several AF stores, including Ace, AF IGA, and as a young boy working with his Mom and Dad at the hardware store. David spent time with the Adams County Parks Department working at the Castle Rock Park, and also worked for the Adams County Highway Dept and later Fenners Excavating. He spent some time off from classes working with is brother Dan, with Tweet-Garot Mechanical, to assist with the financing his education, gaining great respect and admiration for hard, long hours, and for his brother. While in Oshkosh he worked in the yards of the Oshkosh FleetFarm.
When not working or studying, David was a contemplative, quiet young man, and spent many hours on the deck in discussion with his family and friends, giving brief glimpse to the depth of his insight and thoughtfulness. He had a vast collection of music and it showed his eclectic taste ranging from Beethoven to Clapton to Vaughan.
David was diagnosed with cancer in January of 2006. Surgical treatment seemed to leave David cancer free until a follow-up appointment in May of 2007 revealed a developing spot in his left lung. A later scan showed it to be growing. Surgical removal and a succession of chemo therapy sessions gave every indication that David would win. Something went wrong. He fought to the end and remained as he would state on the phone, "Im fine, just a little tired, Mom." In the end he did win his battle by entering glory.
The familys hope is that David will be remembered for his kindness, tender heart and that big beautiful smile.
He is survived by parents, Herb and Deb Barnes of Friendship, brother Dan (Amanda) and nieces Grace and Sydney ; brother Paul; grandfather Roy and Aunt Cathy, Uncle Ron (Peggy) all of Friendship. Aunt Joyce Elliot, Aunt Eileen Krueger, nieces Grace and Sydney and many great aunts and uncles and cousins. Many friends from the Adams-Friendship area and the Oshkosh area.
He was preceded in death by his Grandparents Ralph and Dorothy Olson, and Grandmother Ethel Barnes, and Uncle Edwin Olson.
A Scholarship Fund will be set up in Davids memory for the Adams-Friendship High School, or memorials can be given to the Immanuel Lutheran Church, Adams, Wisconsin.
Dearest Herb & Deb
I am so sorry to hear about your son. My thoughts and prayers are with you both. There are no words to express my heart felt sympathy. Always Tina
Herb & Deb,
I am so sorry about the loss of your son David.
My prayers are with you both. May God hold you in the Palm of His Hand and comfort you always.
Bless you both,
Herb/Deb,
Just want to send my condolences to you. I was unable to make the funeral due to work. I wanted to tell you just a few things that I remember about Dave. I remember always picking him up from school and talking about whats going on with bo
What a wonderful young man to have known. His love and kindness will remain on the minds forever of those who knew him. May God comfort you during your sorrows.
John 10:14-15
Dear Barnes family, What a beautiful service today for a beautiful spirit. A light has gone out here in Friendship but has come on in heaven and shines down on you with great love. A warm hug from me…..
To the Barnes Family: When something like this happens, its hard to find the words that sound truly comforting. We can only pray that the Lord will speak to your hearts and bring you comfort and peace. You are all in our thoughts and prayers
We are so sorry for your loss, and hope that you can find comfort and peace at this time. Php 4:7
Herb, Deb, and Family,
I cannot begin to imagine your loss. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Herb and Deb- You both are in my thoughts and prayers today. I am so sorry I could not be there. I truly believe the sadness will grow softer as time heals the pain but the wonderful memories will always remain. I hope these wonderful memories will give
Please know you are in our prayers. David will be remembered by all those who he touched thru this short but meaningful life. He will be missed. God bless and comfort you.
What a tragic loss for all who knew David. He was one of the best and brightest and will be truly missed. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. Carla
Our thoughts and prayers are with your family in this time of loss. I know words cannot heal the pain that you must feel in your hearts with the loss of a child. My heart goes out to you.
With Sympathy,
Mike & Kari Banovec
Dear Barnes families,
Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you during this time of sorrow.
Barnes Family-
You are in our thoughts and prayers. David worked so good with the kids when he tutored for the After School Program. He was so patient and very kind to them. May God give you some comfort in your time of sorrow.
Herb and Deb and Family, Please accept our deepest sympathy for the loss of your precious son, David. Take comfort in knowing that God called David home when He needed him with Him.
Dave was someone you couldnât help yourself from loving. Honest, selfless, charmingâ¦he had a way of making you be the best version of yourself that was possible. I have my memories and I know that everyone who knew him has their own memories to help
i remember david in school such a nice guy. If you every needed any help he was always there. Deb and Herb your in my prayers
Your family is in my prayers. It is terrible to see such funny, good friend go. I will always remeber him for his snicker, or chuckle of a laugh and the love of rock and roll he has taught me on our rides to baseball proactice. I will miss him.
SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS
Deb and family: Such sad news. It sounds like your son was a great son and person. I hope the respect and love he received and gave will help you through this incomprehensibly difficult time. I will be thinking of you and your family.
No words can express the loss of one loving young man who held the world up high on his shoulder and took day by day just having fun not worrying about what tomorrow brings. That is what everybody loved about dave he had a good heart and a good soul my th
I am so sorry for the loss of your son. What a wonderful young man he was and will always be in the hearts of so many. I had the chance to get to know Dave while we both worked for IGA. He was always so kind, and helpful. I never heard him say anything me
Our hearts go out to all the family. He is with our Lord now, a chosen one. May you find some comfort in knowing others understand and care.
Very Sorry for your loss! Our thoughts and prays go out to you and your family.
Menominee Tribal Child Support workers
Debbie, Herb, Danny, Amanda & Paul,
May the peace of God and His Grace see you all through this tragic time.
Our heart felt condolences.
Deb and Herb, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time.
Herb, Debbie & Family, I am so sorry to hear about your son. You all will be in my thoughts and prayers. God will help you through this difficult time. Your friend, Carmen
Herb, Deb, and family/friends: My deepest condolences – our musical prelude at the service will honor the life of David and the passion and love for music that he enjoyed.
We are so very sorry for your loss of a wonderful son. Our daughter, Megan, spoke fondly of Dave as a roommate and friend. He wil be sadly missed. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
im not very good with moments like these, but i never thought i would see this moment, ive played baseball for years with david, and no matter the outcome he was always smiling,and no matter how bad anyong ever did, he always had words of incouragement. H
Deb
I do not know any words that will convey how sad I am for you.
Just know that I am thinking about you and wishing I could be there in person to give you a huge hug.
Deb – simply – I cannot fathom what you are feeling – but if there is any
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Herb and Deb,
Thank you for such a meaningful insight as to who David was. Having never met David I felt the pride and love you shared with us all will remain in our memories forever. Our heartfelt condolences.
"What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us." ~ Helen Keller
Words cannot say how sorry we are for your loss. We hope you can find some strength from the vast community of family and friends around you, and
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
You & your family have
my deepest sympathy for
losing a son who was a
blessing thru his whole
life.
DEB- I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT DAVID. I WENT TO SCHOOL WITH HIM.WORDS CANT CANT EXPLAIN THE HEART ACHE THAT YOU ALL FEEL. I LOST A BROTHER WHEN I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL.HE WAS DISABLED THOUGH. YOU GUYS ARE IN MY THOUGHTS.REMEMBER ALL THE GOOD TIMES YOU SH
Herb and Deb—My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Herb, Deb, Paul, Dan and Family,
WE are so very sorry for your loss of David. He was a young that when you first met him you would not forget him. There are no words that I could say that would tell you how sorry We are and how much our hearts, thought
There is so little one can say, but please know my thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time. Although I did not k
There is so little one can say, but please know my thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time. Although I did not know your son, the smile he reflects shows his warmth and compassion. It is a shame his life was cut so short when he had
"David Roy Barnes"…his mom would call fromthe back stoopof her porch. But David might be in my backyard building a fort, my rec room playing Nintendo, tossing the baseball with Andrew, or playing buckets with Ben and Chris. We shared picnics, swimming l
So sorry for your loss. Dave was a wonderful classmate and an even better friend. He will be deeply missed and always kept in our hearts and prayers.
So sorry for your loss and may God Bless your family.
Our prayers are with you. He was a wonderful young man.
May God comfort you durning this difficult time. Heaven has recieved a very special angel in David.
Hold each other close and remember David. He was a very wonderful young man, his insights where wonderful. you have my deepest sympathy.
Dave will always have a special place in my heart. In my first attempt at Vacation Bible School, he was my devoted helper in the arts & crafts class when my 1st son was just a toddler. Dave was the model of the perfect kid – so helpful, no complaints, a
David will be wearing that big, beautiful smile when next you see him face to face, greeting you in heaven. What a blessing to have known him on this earth! His parents, brothers, and other relatives and friends have all contributed to the wonderful per
I was immediately drawn to David when he came to our clinic for Cancer care. His warmth,character and strength were easily apparent. He was always smiling–no complaints and no self-pity.
He was the kind of young man that made you proud to be a parent.
May beautiful memories give you strength at this difficult time. I have been away, way too long. Sometimes, there are no perfect words… Wishing you strength and comfort at this difficult time.
Herb,Deb,Dan, and Paul—my thoughts and prayers are with you always. It was a pleasure to have known Dave not only as an adult, but as one of my best friends growing up. It seems like only yesterday we were riding our bikes around the old grade school pr
Words cannot express the sadness and shock of Davids passing. He was like part of our family for a long time. I thought of him as one of my own. He will truly be missed by my son and our family.He will be remembered by us for his big smile.
There are no words to ease this terrible loss of such a wonderful friend in our lives. I am sorry I cannot be there but your family is constantly in my thoughts and prayers. One thing that comes to mind when I think of Dave was his amazing gift with wri
Deb – I am so sorry for your great loss. My husband has just had his second big surgery for colon cancer and we spent the summer doing chemo and radiation…so I know what your family has been going thru. While I did not know your son, I know you and so