Ernest Frances Stroede

Ernest Frances Stroede

Ernest Frances Stroede

September 28, 1935 – December 14, 2020

Ernest Frances Stroede was born September 28, 1935 in the Town of Dell Prairie to John and Myrtle (Schultz) Stroede. He never strayed far from home, living and dying near the family farm where he grew up. He enjoyed a quiet life and was a quiet man.

He wore many hats:  Dad, Poppy, Grandpa, Great-Grandpa, Fritz, Honcho, Farmer, Carpenter and Friend to many. He had old-fashioned values and lived an old-fashioned life. This past summer he could still be seen driving his father’s tractor and baling hay. His days started early in the morning and he worked hard every day and didn’t stop until the job was done. Ernie was proud to work along the side of his brothers at Stroede Brothers Construction in Oxford, WI. He was a master carpenter and craftsman and built many of the homes in the area. He had a very strong understanding of math and could have done many other things but wanted to be a Stroede Brother.  He was also strong, brave, wise, caring, kind, generous and very independent, living on his own until his last day. He lived on the acreage of pines that he planted with his father when he was a boy. And he built his little cabin there from those same trees. It was his sanctuary, his home. He said, ‘the world stops at the end of the driveway.” He made amazing apple pie and was known by all kids for his delicious homemade pancakes. He enjoyed his years of hunting with the Hunting Shack Harry’s.

He loved us through his actions more than his words. When he did talk, we listened. These are some of his words of wisdom that he shared with us:

The most important ingredient in pancakes is love.

The Land will provide.

There is beauty in simplicity.

Sharpen your saw, it’s only against the harder object that strengthens and sharpens us.

Be grateful for what you have and don’t want more.

Find joy and beauty in every step of your journey.

Respect everyone no matter what.

Share and share alike.

Modern convenience is nice but not necessary to life.

It takes a lot of hard work to achieve anything worthy.

You cannot shy away from hard work.

Think before you speak and be intentional with what you say.

Solitude is okay and sometimes needed.

Alone and lonely are two different things.

A simple walk around the woods can do a world of help.

Help others who are in need of your skills/gifts.

Red sky at night, sailors delight. Red sky in the morning, sailors take warning.

A pint’s a pound a world around.

Hubba-bubba it’s 6:36.

Stick by your family, they are the most important people in your life.

A drive can trigger a lifetime of memories – make them!

Sometimes you just need to be home.

Ernest is survived by his best friend, Jane L. Stroede, WI Dells, WI and their daughter, Sunny Stroede Rufo (Charles), Stillwater, OK. And children Sandi K. Murray, Lodi, WI and Scott E. Stroede (Tammi), King Salmon, AK and Bonnie S. Wagner (James), Lodi, WI. Six grandchildren: Chelsea McCoach (Mike), Andrew Murray, Maegan Monson (Adam), Jason Murray, David Stroede and Abbie Wagner. And two great-grandchildren: Brayden and Tenley.

He was preceded in death by his parents, sisters Helen and Betty, brothers John, August and Richard and his best dog Beau. It gives us great strength to know that he is finally at home with his parents and siblings. Many years ago, his mother Myrtie instructed him to stick with his brothers and he did as she said. They were waiting for him and now their family is complete. We are sure that Myrtie has already assigned him a new job.

Memorials may be made to the Davis Corners United Methodist Church where Ernest was a lifelong member, grounds keeper and carpenter or the Arbor Day Foundation. In memory of his love of nature, we encourage everyone to plant a tree.

Services will be Friday, December 18, 2020 at the Davis Corners United Methodist Church, 606 County Highway I, Town of Jackson. The wake will be at 12:30 P.M. to 2:30 P.M. and the funeral will be immediately following. Burial will be at the Davis Corners Cemetery.

Due to COVID-19 concerns, we are asking that everyone that attends the wake and funeral wear a mask and maintain social distancing while in the church.  If you are experiencing any respiratory symptoms, please refrain from attending and send your condolences online at

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  1. Jim & Pat Elliott says:

    We are very sorry for your loss. Ernie was truly a great guy. We have fond memories of being together at baseball games at Pete’s store and the fun Friday nights at Fir, Fin and Feather. He was always the same and always had a smile for everyone. We will all miss him.
    Our very deepest sympathies to his family and friends. He is in a better place now.
    Jim & Pat Elliott

  2. Kerry Page says:

    Please accept our condolences from the Page family. My father Howard and all the ‘Stroede brothers’ were friends for many years. Having grown up with the next generation and still spending time at ‘the farm’ I think of these men often. You are in our thoughts and prayers.

  3. Andy, Lori and Jon Stroede says:

    Stroede family and friends – We will miss Uncle Ernie and our visits to his log home in the woods. Although we were not farm born-and-bred like Ernie, he let us experience his earth-friendly, self-sufficient lifestyle and we learned so much from him. He was a unique, loving person who said so much without talking a lot. Now he’s with my Dad and his other family members that passed on before him. Our sympathies to Jane and our cousins Sunny, Sandi, Scott and Bonnie.

  4. Jane Q says:

    I did not know your husband/Dad, but I read his entire obituary and had to cut outing save all his “words of wisdom”. My deepest sympathy on the loss of a very special man.

  5. Paula pavelka (Jones) says:

    Very sorry for your loss, he was a kind man, he will be dearly missed.

  6. Jeanne Trevorrow says:

    My deepest Sympathy to all of Ernie’s Family and friends, so sorry for your loss ! I was always blessed to have known him many years as a true friend ! I have many Cherished memories .

  7. Tom Dinegan says:

    My deepest sympathies!

  8. Cheri Zimmerman says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss.

  9. Reggie Kallenbach says:

    Thank you Ernie for believing in me as a young man and showing me the art of being a master carpenter. I’ve learned more from you than anyone else. I have many fond memories of times spent at the Fur Fin & Feather and the Sandbar in your company. You were a true gentleman.

  10. Gary Taft says:

    Thankyou Ernie for all the years we worked together you taught me countless lessons and the value of doing it right. Mentor and true friend you will always be to me.

  11. Bonnie and Bob Murphy says:

    To all of you we send our condolences and prayers. We all thought a lot of Ernie and held a special place in our hearts for him. Wish we could be there with you. With love, Aunt Beverly, Bonnie and Bob Murphy and family.

  12. Corky Shumway says:

    So sad to learn of Ernie passing. He was a lovely man and long time friends of him and his family. May God grant you peace and comfort. Corky Shumway

  13. Ed and Dina Johnson says:

    So very sorry for your loss. Our condolences to your family. You all are in our thoughts and prayers. Bless you all. Ed and Dina Johnson

  14. Kay Theisen says:

    To all the Stroede families, over the years the Stroede
    Families have been very special to all of us we send our love!